Featured Articles and Journals: Relationships

August 3, 2015
In personal situations, sometimes I feel very strongly that I'm right and you're wrong. It's very hard for me to see that you have your own point of view, that you don't mean me any harm, and that your needs and concerns are as valid as mine. ...
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January 15, 2015
When I conceived this video, I felt an enormous, burdensome weight of self doubt, judgment, and anxiety.  I questioned whether shooting it was the right thing to do.  Did its content fall in line with the message I want to share with...
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December 4, 2014
The behavior of my son’s new friend was not in accordance with the set of standards to which I hold my own kids.  In addition to the friend’s unfavorable behavior, it also seemed like – and I don’t want to misdirect any pointe
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October 25, 2014
The Buddha, as a man who left his wife and young child to seek enlightenment, doesn't give a lot of advice on marriage. As one of my teachers says, if you're having difficulty in your romantic relationship, is a celibate monk the best person to ask...
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September 29, 2014
I've been thinking about how relationships, mindfulness, and meditation work.  All of them seem to share a striking characteristic.  When everyone is happy, they all seem to flow easily.  But when someone is feeling a strong emotion (...
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May 28, 2014
The truth is: without a genuine willingness to let in the suffering of others, our spiritual practice remains empty.   Father Theophane, a Christian mystic, writes about an incident that happened when he took some time off from his secular...
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April 14, 2014
I've been watching the free online course on Buddhism and Modern Psychology by Princeton professor Robert Wright (available here).
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January 9, 2014
To listen is to lean in softlyWith a willingness to be changedBy what we hear – Mark Nepo  
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December 13, 2013
Loneliness has always been the most terrifying and unacceptable emotion for me to sit with. For most of my life I’ve had this nagging sense that somehow I’m just not really understood or connected enough, and therefore not complete enough because...
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November 26, 2013
Most of us spend a lot of our lives tensed up in fear, or pushing against fear. 
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November 4, 2013
The modern-day mystic and Jesuit priest Anthony de Mello once said: “
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October 26, 2013
A student in the meditation class I lead once asked how I could reconcile the truth of impermanence with being married. Since nothing is permanent, how can you take a vow to stay with someone for better or worse, all the days of your life?
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September 25, 2013
What do you wish you had known about love when you were 20 years old? This was the question that popped up in my inbox a few days ago, thanks to the Radical Self Love Letters from Gala Darling (I love this woman!).
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September 12, 2013
I had a difficult time making and posting this video because I wasn't happy with myself for the approach I was taking with my son, Oliver.  But shooting together provided a safe forum in which we were able to talk gently, for the first time in...
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June 17, 2013
My son's spit strings together my story of personal failure.  Tong Len brings me present and helps me work with what is.
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May 31, 2013
  Recently I was having one of my weekly interviews with my teacher. I was talking about how hard a time I was still having working through the emotions around my recent break-up. It’d been just over two months, and I was feeling as if the hurt...
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April 26, 2013
  I’ve always had a stock of “worst case scenarios” tucked away somewhere in my mind that would fill my heart with dread whenever I was brave enough to consider what life would be like should any of them ever come to pass. Some of these...
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by Paul S
April 9, 2013
I spend a lot of time thinking about what people need from each other in order to feel connected, cohesive, and resilient.  Buddhism, historically, has not taken a developmental view of how we reach a healthy baseline of functioning in work,...
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April 5, 2013
Recently my partner and fiancee of five years told me that he’d met someone else and was therefore ending our relationship. This was a complete shock to me as there’d been no signs of discord or discontent as far as I could tell, and while I may...
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April 4, 2013
We all have people in our lives who have profoundly harmed us. Sometimes the situation with the other person has changed. You may have forgiven them and they may even have taken ownership and expressed remorse for their harmful actions. Other times...
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February 27, 2013
  I’ve always pegged “Next” as a demon. Next pushes one to bitterly reboot or insatiably chase.  Next is an instant reaction that propels one into tomorrow with (what seems like) little maturity. Devilish. Pathetic. I’ve desperately tried...
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January 13, 2013
As I write this, my mind is filled with the prospect of something fresh and new -- to cultivate something that is completely out of my choosing.  To take advantage of life's choices.
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July 9, 2012
Before I became a Buddhist, I had a good life: beautiful girlfriend, lots of friends, money to burn, interesting career... but even rockstars, who are supposed to have it all, often feel a profound sense of emptiness. I was no rock star, but ...
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June 28, 2012
Ten years ago, when I was an undergrad, I felt alone. I was known for two things around campus: the first was being a “hardcore” Buddhist and the second always being up for going out on the town with friends. I would drink, have sex, and do a lot of...
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June 6, 2012
For me, the first step towards freedom has always been letting go of worry about what others think of me. Then there is what may seem like the opposite - caring how I affect others, sometimes restraining myself so as not to displease or upset others...
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